Poker Face

Have you ever thought when dealing with some people “You’re an idiot” or “Please stop talking to me” OR “Grow up”. I’ve always been a person that had a hard time not showing what I’m thinking on my face. I have learned no one owes us anything expecting people to operate a certain way will be a huge let down every time. I’ve also had to tell myself “Self you don’t know what’s happening in this person’s life for them to be who they are. I have recently started praying for the people who offend me. This is not easy there was a time that I let anger consume every part of my being even spent a couple nights in jail because of it, But I truly believe it was for my good. Although it has been my weakness it has matured me at the same time. I’ve learned some hard lessons through my anger I truly understand the Bible verse Ephesians 4:26 “Be angry but sin not”. God is giving so much wisdom in this verse. I consider it a great tool for life we are told its okay to be angry but when we let the anger turn into action that’s when things happen. We say and do things we can’t take back

Corinthians 12:9-11New International Version (NIV)

9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

Mediation has also been a great tool in my journey just recently implemented. It is helping me to calm my thoughts down and re- focus. Also showing my self compassion something I was not taught growing up.

The Anger Meditation

You must first pledge
not to express or act on your anger for the duration of this exercise, and for
a little while afterward. The reason for this is that this technique might make
you feel even angrier for a while. It helps you to become more conscious of
your anger, and this means that the anger is coming a bit closer to the
surface.

Here are the
steps:

1. Forget about the content of the anger,
i.e. what or who you think has ’caused’ you to be angry. Just focus on the
underlying feeling of anger.

2. Anger usually has a physical component or
expression in your body. So now identify where, in your body, you feel the
anger most. It usually feels hot, though sometimes it can be an absence of
feeling, or a feeling of “going cold.”

3. Now, as you inhale, try to bring your
breath to meet that angry feeling.  At
first, you might just make the most tentative contact. But keep doing this, one
breath at a time. Gradually there will be less and less separation between your
anger and your breathing:  your awareness
will embrace them both.

4. Keep doing this until you feel a bit more
stable with your anger — that you can handle it better. You are befriending it
and welcoming it as part of you.
The Anger
Meditation is a bit like learning how to drive in a skid. When your car starts
to skid, although the natural impulse might be to turn away from the skid, this
just makes the skidding worse. The better way to handle a skid is to turn into
it, not out of it. In other words, working against what is happening seems to
make things worse, but going with what is happening helps you regain
appropriate control.  So with the Anger
Meditation, you turn toward your anger. You go with it, respectfully, rather
than fighting against it.
While doing the
Anger Meditation, you might also suddenly gain clarity about what the trigger
for the anger was, how you contributed to the situation, or how to express what
you’re feeling to the right person at the right time in the right way. Or you
might just feel more accepting of being angry for the time being.

You might also
find that the anger converts to pure energy.
You might find that this energy begins to spread all over your body, and
make you feel more alive and vibrant. For the Anger Meditation helps you see
that anger is essentially energy. What may have caused the upsurge of
energy-the trigger-may not be what you think, but maybe the energy itself has
value. Maybe it is energy that, if consciously directed, could enhance your
ability to start a business, finish an essay, lift weights, make love, or just
clean your house.

With
the Anger Meditation, the intention is not to become a saint, or to become your
idealized image of a “peaceful person,” but simply to be more at peace with
whatever you’re feeling, even if it doesn’t always seem so peaceful. This, to
me, is the real goal of meditation: a peacefulness that does not denigrate,
banish, or deny anger, but a peacefulness that embraces it.

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